Happy Easter everyone!
Normally I write a super exclusive newsletter each Sunday where I tell everyone my wins for the week, and encourage people to share theirs as well.
Okay, so that was a subpar explanation of my Sunday writings, but if you want the super secret details, you’ll have to subscribe… and then wait for next week.
This Sunday there’s been a bit of a blip, so I decided to just write a post instead.
Normally, I start my newsletters by discussing the things I talked about during the week. This is meant for any new subscribers who haven’t had a chance to flip through my blog posts – also labeled as ‘journal‘ on the site.
You can read about these things here:
How Anxiety and Depression are Caused by the Smallest Things – where I discuss the repercussions of a friend cancelling lunch.
And how Social Anxiety Plays on all your Worst Fears – where I explain that just because I’m not shy, doesn’t mean I don’t suffer.
Old Adages are Not Always Wise
Today I wanted to talk about that old adage of ‘everything happens for a reason.’
This is probably the worst piece of advice you can give to someone who is currently suffering. This could be a person suffering from a depression low, or a panic attack, or a broken bone, or a loss of a loved one. It could be mental pain, physical pain, emotional pain, or some scary combination of all three.
Hearing that ‘everything happens for a reason’ is not going to make it better. It’s not going to make the pain go away. In fact, while suffering, this is pretty much the last thing you want to hear.
It’s not helpful. We will figure this out in time, but now is not the time. Now we just need comfort and support.
I read a quote in Rachel Hollis’s book, “Girl, Wash Your Face” and it stood out to me. (Side note, this is an affiliate link. It’s a great book though, and I’d promote it for free.)
She said, “I don’t believe everything happens for a specific reason, but I do believe it’s possible to find purpose – even in the absence of explanation.”
We don’t need to look for reason. We don’t need to look for an explanation. We can look for purpose, or we can simply wait it out.
This week has been hard for everyone in my family. There have been a few of us that have had major health scares, myself included, and the rest of my family is trying to be supportive.
We’re all doing the best we can.
Right now, I don’t want to look for lessons, or explanations. I don’t even want to find the purpose. It will come.
I’m just trying to get through all the challenges. I’m trying to be supportive of my family who is also going through challenges.
It’s weird how we’re in this together, and yet, we’re very much alone.
In the interest of moving things along, I wanted to quote something else.
“It’s not about what you got. It’s what you make of what you got.”
Yep. I did it. I totally just quoted Step Up 2 – because all the Step Up movies are a guilty pleasure of mine. For those of you who don’t understand broken English, I’ll translate.
It doesn’t matter where you come from, or what’s happening to you. It’s how you make the most of it.
I hope that everyone has a wonderful holiday weekend filled with joy and food, and chocolate. However you choose to celebrate, I hope it brings you peace and happiness, and chocolate.
To my family specifically – we’ll get through this. It might get worse before it gets better, but we’ll pull through. We always do.
We can all find purpose eventually, but in the meantime, here’s a little bit of hope.
Sometimes hope is all you need to start making the most of life.