I received some big unfortunate news this morning, that’s left me feeling down. It’s not my news to share, so we’ll just leave it at that.
Needless to say, I’m having a hard time. I haven’t quite processed my feelings or made sense of anything, I just know that I hurt. I’m down.
And when I’m down, I have difficulty moving on. I have difficulty writing. To be honest, I have difficulty speaking too.
My words don’t really come together, and neither do my thoughts. So I apologize in advance if none of this makes sense. I wanted to write anyway.
Not Wanting to Forget how
In the past, I’ve used depression as an excuse not to write. A few days pass, then a few weeks, and when I attempt to write again, it’s like I’ve forgotten how.
In an effort to not let that horrible spiral begin, I’m writing today. The funny thing is, I reached out to a couple of friends on Facebook, just to say hello.
Now that I am an Independent Consultant for Pampered Chef, it’s my ‘job’ to reach out to friends and family and ask them to host parties for me, or attend virtual parties, or purchase something in support.
The truth is, that’s not what I’m about. I’ve never been that way.
When I reach out to people, I don’t want them thinking “oh she must want something” – because that’s simply not true.
Every once in a while I will message my coworkers with a “Hello, how was your weekend?” type of message. We have a quick conversation and I wrap it up with, “I just wanted to say hi.”
Mostly because when you message your coworkers, it’s because you need something.
With all the fundraisers, and direct selling opportunities, that’s pretty much what Facebook has become as well.
It’s a great platform for getting money when you need it, sure.
But originally it was supposed to be a way to connect with friends, and so, I continue to do that. With or without the money opportunities.
Friendship and Support is Key to Moving On When You’re Feeling Down
One of the friends I reached out to is very pregnant. It seemed like an excellent icebreaker. “Hi friend, how’s the pregnancy?”
She could have responded with “It’s good, how are you?” which is a totally respectable response.
But she’s better than that.
She put thought into it, told me how her week is going, how this pregnancy is different than the last, and some new revelations she’s made in the last few days.
Yep. All that from one simple question.
This is precisely why I love her. When she ended her response to me, she posed a question back. “And how are you?”
After all that, I’m not about to say “I’m good.”
One, she deserves more. Two, I’m not really good.
I’m feeling down. I’m depressed. I know I am. So I tell her.
My beautiful friend, who always knows what to say, says “Mental Health rarely has reasons. Sometimes it’s just chemical.”
Read that again – it’s a wonderful sentiment.
And then she sent me an image – which, I’m posting below.
See that? Progress doesn’t have to be huge. I got out of bed today. I wrote a blog post. I cried a little. I reached out to a friend.
Those are big things.
For those suffering depression, or feeling down, remember your progress. Reach out to a loved one. Reach out to a friend.
You don’t have to talk about you – sometimes just hearing about what’s going on outside your life is really helpful.
I reached out to my friend to find out how she was doing, and how her baby-growing process is going. It was really helpful to my heart to hear about her life.
Bonus, I also got a really big life lesson and an image to share with my tribe.
Have a wonderful day, and know that it will all be okay soon.