Social media – late to the party, want to slip in unnoticed?
This year, I’ve been following a lot of MindValley quests. These are programs done in bite-size (15-20 minutes per day) chunks over a set period of time (2-6 weeks), to help better yourself.
Already in 2020, I’ve done a sleep quest, a speaking quest, and now I’m on a money quest. Honestly, I just like saying the word ‘quest’ – makes me feel like Zelda.
Anyway, it doesn’t matter which quest I do, there’s a private Facebook group to join, which has thousands of people taking the same quest.
That means that I have a tribe of like-minded people, all potentially learning the same lessons on the same days. It’s an accountability program. And basically I have a squad of thousands of cheerleaders rooting for me to finish.
Here’s the problem. I find that scary and overwhelming.
Every day, the quest ‘homework’ is to do something, think about something, write something, whatever it is, I’m supposed to take action and then discuss it with the tribe.
I do the action. I almost always neglect the discussion.
I’ve been trying to figure out my reasoning.
Fear or Shyness?
For a couple of the programs I’ve done, I thought it was because I felt like I was behind.
I started late, or for health reasons took a break in the middle, etc. So when it came time to speak to the group, I hesitated.
I likened it to arriving late to a party and not wanting to start a conversation for fear that the conversation had already been had.
Obviously, with my social anxiety, party-going isn’t easy, that is usually for fear of judgement. But in these Facebook tribes, well, I don’t have the fear of judgement.
Perhaps I’m just shy?
So I started thinking maybe that’s what people feel like here too. Possibly, they have something to say but are too afraid to say it.
For shyness or fear, or not wanting to have a conversation that’s already been had.
Whatever the reason, I wanted to say openly, that you are all welcome to speak, or not too. I’m here, and I understand.
Or you can just email me, as that’s a little more intimate and private. To those who have been emailing me, thanks! I love conversing with you!
To those debating it, when you’re ready, I’m here.
Have no fear. You will not be judged. But I might inadvertently speak in rhymes.