In my last post I mentioned the number of people who said to me “You Got This” – and I wanted to talk about that today.
First, I have to confess, it’s taken me a number of days to write this. I sat down to write it, got busy, something else came up, and then a few days past before I remembered to sit down and type.
Needless to say, I have not kept to my daily writing habit. I am being gentle on myself, because I know there’s a lot going on, and I’m accomplishing a lot of other things, plus travelling further distances, etc.
I realize that my time is divided and spread, but for the most part, I’ve been sticking to my daily goals and prioritizing my time appropriately.
So instead of self-criticizing, I’m self-rewarding. Rewards are important!
I haven’t done any quests recently either. I put my “Speech Quest” on hold for about ten days, but I do plan to start it up again.
My point in telling you this is that life isn’t always as simple as “make a list, cross things off” – there’s a lot I want to do each day, but some days I don’t get to it.
Lists and Accomplishments
I continue to make my lists anyway. This has really been helping me. I have about 7 or 8 things written down each day, and every day I cross out about 6 or 7 things.
In the past, I used to hang on to that one thing.
The item not crossed off would make me feel like a failure.
This year, I’m trying really hard to focus on the accomplishments, and because I have them written down, it’s easier to do.
Whenever I’m feeling doubtful, I check my journal and I can see exactly how much I’ve done, and where my time has gone for the day/week/month etc.
Then I give myself a little pat on the back and say, “I got this” – because somehow that has become my mantra.
The funny thing is that other people have helped contribute to this.
Last week I was invited to a Pampered Chef Launch Party. As far as timelines go, this is moving hella fast.
I joined the company on Friday, January 31st in the very last 15 minutes of the day. Then sometime Saturday, my ‘up-line” invited me to this event in Toronto on Monday.
So I basically had two days to figure out a game plan.
The Importance of Realizing You Got This
I could have said no. I’m sure everyone would have understood.
But due to a mishap that happened at my daughter’s birthday party (I’ll explain this cute story in the future), I volunteered to travel south anyway, so I made it work.
For the most part I was excited, but as I started driving to Toronto, and getting a little lost, and anticipating entering a building full of strangers, and having to mingle and be social without having a friend by my side, well, I can tell you, anxiety kicked in.
While I drove, I concentrated on baby steps. “Let me just get there first, I got this.”
Once I was there, I had a little bit of time to myself before the event started so I checked my email, and responded to a friend to tell him I was at the event. To which he replied, “You got this.”
Then I messaged another friend on Facebook, and she said the exact same phrase. “You got this.”
Not to mention both my mom and husband had said that to me earlier in the night.
You know, I didn’t really have a chance to let the anxiety set in full force, because so many people were telling me, that I could do this. That I didn’t need to be afraid.
That… “I got this.”
Those three words got me so far, and continue to get me where I need to be.
To all my anxious friends out there, I want you to remember two things.
One, reward yourself for the small steps. And two, with each step you take, remember, “You got this.”